to a distant friend who just told me his mom had cancer
Thank you…(I apologize in advance for the following diatribe…)
I am very sorry to hear about your mom…
I dealt with this terrible thing…seeing my ex-wife’s father die from cancer.
And it made no sense to me.
How could this ever happen?
How come faith / god can not stop this?
What good is this? What good is faith?
It taught me that every moment is precious. Everyone we love needs to be told and shown that they are loved and appreciated, including us.
We need to find someone to tell us we are great…in order to actually be greater than we ever thought we could be. And we also need to desire something greater than we have ever known before, or we will never find anything greater.
Then, it is very wise to enjoy; enjoy each of these things that make your life greater today than you ever realized, even if it is nature itself. If you seek, you will find.
And, for myself, I learned to understand things at it’s most basic level. Don’t worry about things you cannot control (they will go away, they will change)…only worry about living or doing what you can, and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.
Become….don’t settle for having anything less than you were born to be have, nor for any relationship that makes you a lesser person than you were born to become…
Do the right things, yes…
but enjoy….always enjoy.
Love is enjoyment…enjoyment is love.
If you don’t enjoy the people you are with - including yourself - then how do you think you are being loving to someone else?
When you give, enjoy. I don’t personally believe in sacrifice, nor do I believe in lack…I believe in producing, and in reserving (saving)…and in giving.
I also believe that people will do the wrong things and you can’t make them do otherwise, and others do nothing, when they should and they can do something…and it is those things that are evil to me. It is evil when I do nothing…when I don’t live. It is evil when I do not enjoy my own life, and when I don’t realize how lucky I am to be alive…
I wish you well through all your struggles; do good my friend.
Sincerely,
Steve